123: The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission
Send us Fan Mail You've solved harder problems than this. So why is this one still stuck? This episode is for the high achievers who have done real work on themselves — the therapy, the books, the hard conversations — and still can't get traction when it comes to desire, intimacy, and their closest relationships. […]
122: Coming Home to Your Body: What Sexual Embodiment Actually Feels Like
Send us Fan Mail Most people who feel disconnected from their desire, their body, or their partner aren't broken. They're just exiled — from themselves. And nobody ever taught them the way back. This episode is about what it actually feels like when you find it. The felt sense of coming home to your own […]
121: The Cult Dynamics Hiding Inside “Sacred Sexuality” Spaces — with Anke Richter
Send us Fan Mail You don't have to join a compound to end up in a high-control group. Sometimes it starts with a neo-tantra festival. A weekend workshop. A community that feels like finally, finally, you found your people. Anke Richter is an international cult journalist, author of the bestseller Cult Trip (HarperCollins), and founder […]
120: The Men Behind “Sexual Polarity” Have a Lot to Answer For
Send us Fan Mail If you've ever left a sacred sexuality workshop feeling worse about yourself than when you walked in — or heard a friend blame herself for not being “receptive enough” — this episode is for you. Sexual polarity teachings are everywhere right now. They promise to unlock your feminine energy, reignite desire, […]
119: Why Therapy Hasn’t Fixed Your Sex Life (and What Actually Does)
Send us Fan Mail You've done the work. Real work. Therapy, couples counseling, the conversations, the books. You understand yourself better than you ever have — and you still feel the same way in your body. That's not a sign you're beyond help. It's a sign you've been using the wrong tools. This episode explains […]
118: Low Libido Isn’t a Mindset Problem: Why You Can’t Think Your Way to Desire
Send us Fan Mail If you've been trying to figure out how to want sex more and nothing is working — this episode is going to explain why. And it's probably not the answer you've heard before. A lot of people struggling with low desire or low libido have already done the reading. They understand […]
BDSM negotiation: what happens when you skip it, and how to do it right
There’s a version of BDSM negotiation that gets taught as homework: sit down with a checklist, compare your yes/no/maybe lists. Maybe you even write up a contract, file it somewhere. It sounds organized. It also sounds like the least sexy thing imaginable, which is probably why so many couples skip it — or do a […]
117: Sexual Shame: Why We All Have It and How to Give It Back
Send us Fan Mail Most people carry sexual shame so quietly and for so long that it starts to feel like a character trait rather than something that was handed to them. It isn't. Every flavor of shame — about wanting too much, too little, taking too long, not taking long enough, about your body, […]
116: Pleasure Uprising: Why Culture Owes You an Apology
Send us Fan Mail Have you ever followed the “right” advice and ended up further from yourself? That's what this episode is about — and it's also why we're now Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want. The evolution of this show mirrors what happens in my practice all the time: when […]
115: Confident, not controlling: what “take charge in bed” actually means
Send us Fan Mail When a woman asks a male partner to “be more assertive in bed,” those words are typically landing differently than she intends — and differently than he's hearing them. This is a gendered language problem, and it's causing real confusion, frustration, and disappointment in real relationships. There is a real vocabulary […]