117: Sexual Shame: Why We All Have It and How to Give It Back
Send us Fan Mail Most people carry sexual shame so quietly and for so long that it starts to feel like a character trait rather than something that was handed to them. It isn't. Every flavor of shame — about wanting too much, too little, taking too long, not taking long enough, about your body, […]
116: Pleasure Uprising: Why Culture Owes You an Apology
Send us Fan Mail Have you ever followed the “right” advice and ended up further from yourself? That's what this episode is about — and it's also why we're now Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want. The evolution of this show mirrors what happens in my practice all the time: when […]
115: Confident, not controlling: what “take charge in bed” actually means
Send us Fan Mail When a woman asks a male partner to “be more assertive in bed,” those words are typically landing differently than she intends — and differently than he's hearing them. This is a gendered language problem, and it's causing real confusion, frustration, and disappointment in real relationships. There is a real vocabulary […]
114: Why you don’t want the honeymoon phase back (and what’s actually better)
Send us Fan Mail You've heard it a thousand times: “keep the spark alive, get back to how it used to be, recreate that honeymoon phase magic.” But what if that's the wrong goal entirely? Here's what nobody tells you: the honeymoon phase was a drug state — literally. A neurochemical cocktail of dopamine, norepinephrine, […]
113: BONUS: Your Kids Are Watching: Teaching Embodied Consent (Podcasthon for Freedom Network USA)
Send us Fan Mail BONUS: Teaching embodied consent at home—for your kids AND your relationship. This special Podcasthon 2026 episode benefits Freedom Network USA, the largest coalition working on human trafficking in the United States. Prevention of sexual violence starts in families— and most of us were never taught how to practice true embodied consent […]
Teaching Consent to Kids: The Book List for Every Age (Plus Adults)
Teaching Consent to Kids: The Book List for Every Age (Plus Adults) If you’re wondering how to teach consent to your kids—or realizing you never learned it yourself—you’re not alone. Most of us weren’t taught true embodied consent growing up. We learned to hug relatives whether we wanted to or not. We learned that other […]
112: Touch Aversion: When your partner’s touch makes your skin crawl (and what helps)
Send us Fan Mail Does your partner's touch make your skin crawl? You're not broken—and this is fixable. Touch aversion is when affectionate or sexual touch from your partner feels wrong in your body— irritating, threatening, or like you need to escape. This can happen even with light, loving touch. This isn't about attraction. It's […]
111: The Golden Rule of Sex (and why that Other One does NOT apply)
Send us Fan Mail Treat others the way you want to be treated? Great rule. Terrible sex advice. In this episode I'm breaking down the principle that actually works — go at the pace of the slowest body in the room, with open curiosity — and why applying the wrong golden rule is one of […]
110: How to know when it’s time to stop learning and start doing
Send us Fan Mail Ever notice how sometimes the answer isn't more information — it's actually doing something with what you already know? Like when your car is broken, you don't actually need more information from the mechanic after a certain point. You need someone to get under the hood and DO the work. I […]
109: The one thing you haven’t tried for mismatched libido
Send us Fan Mail You've read the books. Maybe you've done therapy. You've tried scheduled sex, date nights, “just doing it.” And you're still stuck. Here's why: you've been trying to fix a layout problem with decorative solutions. In this episode, I break down the kitchen remodel analogy— why desire gaps need something very different […]