Regular sessions are either 60-minutes in person (which gives us a bit more time to settle in to the space together) or 45-minutes online (by Zoom). In-person sessions are in Asheville, North Carolina, U.S.A. Both in-person and zoom sessions get great results.
Yes. This is an excellent way to get serious transformation, quickly. I do in-person intensives in beautiful Asheville, North Carolina. Typically these are 3 to 7 days of 2-3 hour sessions. Email me to inquire about scheduling and we can set up a call to talk about your goals and whether (and when) an intensive might be right for you.
This is embodied work. We will interact in a “relationship lab” where we establish and practice skills within our real relationship. Unlike talk therapy, I do not have to remain distant. Everything we do will be within your boundaries and mine, and at your pace, with your full consent. We will practice discussing how to navigate conversations of consent and boundaries too. I will offer or invite touch when it serves your goals and needs, but it is always fully clothed and never on or near the genitals. You can also ask for touch. Examples include holding, cuddling, practicing light or firm touches on non-genital regions that you can give to a partner. You will get real, honest care, acceptance, and feedback from me as part of this process. The motto of the Somatica Method® is “transformation through pleasure.“
Coaching and therapy are very compatible. They just do different things. Coaching is generally more present/future focused and therapy is usually more past-focused. Many clients (and I myself) have both a coach and therapist. If you want to focus on understanding your past — the reasons behind your emotions and reactions, and your childhood wounds, you should absolutely find and hire a good therapist (be picky!). If you have or suspect you have mental or emotional illnesses, such as depression, severe anxiety, and/or PTSD, I also recommend working with a therapist, especially one who specializes in EMDR, IFS (internal family systems), and/or CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy).
If you want to focus on the present and the future — developing skills to enable a bigger, better life — then a good coach is often a better fit (again, be picky!). The type of coaching I do is practice-oriented. We actually practice real relational and intimacy skills, which you will not get in talk therapy. Most therapists are frankly not trained around sex and definitely will not do relational practice with clients. This type of practice will give you the confidence you need to take these skills into your relationships.
My clients typically work with me for relatively short periods (6 months to a year). Then they graduate because they got exactly what they wanted and solved their specific issues. I also have some clients who only need a few sessions and they are good to go. Coaching is results-oriented. That means I am focused on you getting what you came for as soon as possible.
The level of investment will depend on what your unique goals are and where you’re starting (which will determine how many sessions will get you there). We can talk all this over in a free consultation.
Single sessions are $250. I also offer package discounts, and most clients take advantage of these. 24 sessions (6 months) is $5000 (a $1000 discount) payable in one or two installments. Packages are eligible for full refunds of remaining session balances if you are dissatisfied for any reason.
Clients typically pay online (I will send an invoice) before the session or package start date, although I do take payment in-person for in-person work before the start of the session or intensive.
Ultimately, whether it’s worth it depends on what your own goals are worth to you. What is living the whole rest of your life with access to more pleasure and connection than you ever thought possible worth to you? You are always in control of deciding what you want to invest in. I invite you to consider investing in yourself, and prioritizing your own pleasure and enjoyment of your precious life and body. To me, this is much more worthwhile than all the stuff (commodities like cars, booze, clothes, etc.) that we buy. You and your pleasure are worth prioritizing. What you learn about yourself and about connecting with others by doing this work no one can ever take away from you.
You are unique, but you’re also human. The tools I teach work for all humans. Maybe there’s an exception out there, but we (myself, my teachers and the thousands of people we have collectively helped with these methods) have not found one yet, as long as they come willing. As long as you commit to show up and do the practice with your whole heart, these methods will also work for you. Step one is believing in your own potential for change. That’s the hardest part– and no one can do it for you.
I typically advise setting up weekly sessions because this work is experiential and builds on momentum. You will get faster results if your mind-body doesn’t have time to go back to old, default habits (like a sport, you need to internalize the practice in your body). But I do offer flexibility and we can always reschedule when conflicts arise.
Alternatively, or in addition, you can book an intensive. Those are 3-7 days of 2-3 hour sessions and are wonderful for getting resolution on issues quickly.
Nope. It’s actually really enjoyable. I will guide you. Sometimes tough emotions will come up and I will support you in processing them. That can be a little challenging, but in a way that brings relief and competence. Most sessions are really fun for both of us! We get to play together in service of your growth and future. You don’t need to do anything but show up with an open mind and a willingness to try. I am not a “tough” coach because that doesn’t work. I will never tell you what to do. We will go gently. There is only homework if you choose it.
If you have other questions, please feel free to send me an email