The Pleasure Uprising™ Blog
Real answers on desire, attachment, and getting out of your head — grounded in research, written like a human.
Most of what’s out there on sex and intimacy is either clinical and cold, or vague and woo. This blog is neither. It’s research-backed, body-based, and written for people who are done performing and ready to actually understand what’s happening — in their bodies, their relationships, and a culture that hasn’t exactly set them up to thrive.
Here you’ll find practical, honest writing on:
- Desire and arousal — what drives it, what kills it, and how to find your way back to it
- Getting out of your head — somatic approaches to overthinking, performance anxiety, and disconnection
- Attachment and intimacy — how your nervous system shapes your relationships and what to do about it
- Communication and connection — how to actually talk about desire, needs, and limits without it becoming a negotiation or a fight
- Culture and conditioning — why so much of what makes intimacy hard was never your fault to begin with
Start exploring below.
Teaching Consent to Kids: The Book List for Every Age (Plus Adults)
Teaching Consent to Kids: The Book List for Every Age (Plus Adults) If you're wondering how to teach consent to your kids—or realizin ...
Why ‘Love Should Be Effortless’ Is Ruining Your Relationship
I'm going to ask you something that may be uncomfortable: What are you willing to invest in your most important relationship? I'm talking about real investmen ...
Why Do I Want Sex So Much (Or So Little)? Understanding Your Desire
If you're dealing with a desire discrepancy, you probably think you know what you want: more sex, or less sex.But here's what I've learned after years of workin ...
How to Stop Taking Sexual Rejection Personally
If you're the higher-desire partner, this one's for you. When your partner says no to sex and you immediately spiral into "they don't love me," "I'm undesirab ...
Why Obligation Sex Is Harming Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)
Let me be direct about this: If you're having obligation sex, you are harming yourself and your relationship. I know that sounds harsh. And I say it with comp ...
How to Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner and Start Fixing the Dynamic
This is the foundational mistake that underlies almost everything else when it comes to desire discrepancies. When there's a desire gap in your re ...
Top 10 Mistakes People Make with a Desire Discrepancy . . . (and What to Do Instead)
After years of working with couples on mismatched desire—and recording 100 episodes of my podcast on this exact topic—I've noticed something: the same patterns ...







