108: How do I fix my desire gap when my partner won’t go to therapy?
Send us Fan Mail If you're ready to work on your desire gap but your partner won't go to therapy or coaching, this episode is for you. The answer to “can I actually fix this alone?” is yes — and today I break down exactly how individual work changes the entire relationship dynamic, even when […]
107: Is your ‘low libido’ actually your body setting boundaries?
Send us Fan Mail Avoiding sex? Feeling the “ick” when your partner initiates? Going to bed at 8pm to dodge intimacy? You probably think you have low libido. But what if that's not what's actually happening? In this vulnerable episode, I share my own story of years spent in what I call “the messy middle”—that […]
106: Too tired for sex? How burnout kills desire, with Dr. Amy Grimm
Send us Fan Mail When you're running on empty, sex feels like just another demand on your already depleted system. But burnout isn't just affecting your work life—it's killing your desire and disconnecting you from your partner. Dr. Amy Grimm, veterinarian and certified burnout coach, joins me to explore how chronic stress impacts intimacy. We […]
105: The 1-minute body practice that unlocks what you actually want sexually
Send us Fan Mail Before you can solve your desire gap, you need to know what you actually want. This super simple, somatic practice helps you stop overthinking sex, connect to your body's truth, and find the safety you need to access authentic desire. Whether you want more or less sex than your partner, self-attunement […]
104: ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 2: How to stay present during sex
Send us Fan Mail Part 1 in this series covered how ADHD affects desire. Now let's get practical. Mid-sex, suddenly thinking about work emails and grocery lists? Your partner can tell you're not fully there . . . and it doesn't feel great to you either. You're not a bad lover, your ADHD brain is […]
103: Why “love should be effortless” is ruining your relationship
Send us Fan Mail You've been sold a lie: that if your relationship needs work, something is fundamentally wrong. That love should just happen naturally if you're compatible. That needing help means you're failing. This myth keeps people stuck in mediocre relationships, avoiding problems, and thinking they're failures when they struggle. And it's complete bullshit. […]
Why ‘Love Should Be Effortless’ Is Ruining Your Relationship
I’m going to ask you something that may be uncomfortable: What are you willing to invest in your most important relationship? I’m talking about real investment. Time, money, effort, and attention. The whole deal. That’s what “doing the work” actually means. And I know some of you are already thinking: “Laura, shouldn’t love be free? […]
102: Why do I want sex so much (or so little)? Understanding your desires
Send us Fan Mail If you're dealing with a desire discrepancy, you probably think you know what you want: more sex, or less sex. But what I've learned is this: there's always more under the surface. And that information is gold for figuring out the way forward together. If you're the higher-desire partner, what are […]
Why Do I Want Sex So Much (Or So Little)? Understanding Your Desire
If you’re dealing with a desire discrepancy, you probably think you know what you want: more sex, or less sex. But here’s what I’ve learned after years of working with couples—there’s so much more under the surface. And that information is gold for figuring out the way forward together. Most higher-desire partners think they just […]
101: AI and your sex life: when it helps & when it causes more harm
Send us Fan Mail Thinking about asking ChatGPT about your desire gap at 2am? You're not alone—lots of people are turning to AI for relationship help. And I get it. It's free, private, and you don't have to admit to another human that you're struggling. But here's what you need to know: AI can be […]