Why Do I Want Sex So Much (Or So Little)? Understanding Your Desire
If you’re dealing with a desire discrepancy, you probably think you know what you want: more sex, or less sex. But here’s what I’ve learned after years of working with couples—there’s so much more under the surface. And that information is gold for figuring out the way forward together. Most higher-desire partners think they just […]
How to Stop Taking Sexual Rejection Personally
If you’re the higher-desire partner, this one’s for you. When your partner says no to sex and you immediately spiral into “they don’t love me,” “I’m undesirable,” or “our relationship is doomed”—you’re making their experience all about you. And while I understand why (sexual rejection hurts), this response creates a massive problem. When you catastrophize […]