THE DESIRE GAP BRIDGE™ PROGRAM
Stop Accepting Disconnection as Normal.
Solve Your Desire Gap in 6 Months.
For couples and individuals who’ve tried therapy, books,
and scheduled sex—and are ready for the body-based,
personalized approach that actually works.
✓ 6-month personalized coaching
✓ Individual ($1,099/mo or $5,994 PIF) | Couples ($1,599/mo or $8,994 PIF)
✓ Both partners served equally—no pressure, no blame, no shame
✓ Don’t wait for your partner to be ready. Go first—it changes everything.
✓ Launch Bonus: Sign up by Feb 28 and receive 4 curated resource books
You’ve Tried Everything.
Nothing Has Worked.
You’ve read the books. Scheduled date nights. Tried “just doing it anyway.” Maybe went to couples therapy or talked to your doctor about hormones.
And you’re still stuck. One of you wants more sex. The other feels pressured and defensive. The resentment builds. The distance grows.
You both want connection. That’s what makes this so painful — and why it’s solvable.
Here’s what you need to know: things you’ve tried are not bad strategies. They just don’t work the way most people do them.
Generic sex advice doesn’t work for desire gaps because desire gaps aren’t generic problems. They’re specific to your nervous system, your attachment patterns, and how you each experience safety and arousal in your body.
That’s the gap most therapists and doctors don’t fill. They focus on communication or hormones—but desire gaps are usually rooted in nervous system patterns and how you experience connection in your body.
That’s what The Desire Gap Bridge™ addresses.
The Desire Gap Bridge™ Method
Not generic advice. Not talk therapy. A structured, body-based process built around YOUR specific situation.
STEP 1
Stop the Blame Game,
Get Curious
No one’s broken here. You’re just wired differently— and nobody taught you how to work with that.
In this step, we shift out of blame, shame, and defensiveness into genuine curiosity about what’s actually happening. We create the safety to be deeply honest—with yourself first, then your partner—and identify what’s really underneath the pain and stuckness.
This is the foundation everything else builds on.
STEP 2
Reconnect With What Your Body Actually Wants
Most desire gap advice skips this entirely—and that’s why it fails. Through individual somatic work, you’ll release shame and reconnect with your body’s pleasure. You’ll discover your unique erotic needs— what actually turns you on, what
you need to feel safe, and what you’ve never been able to ask for. Then you’ll learn how to ask.
The result: you stop performing and start feeling. Deep self-knowledge that makes genuine connection with your partner possible for the first time.
STEP 3
Learn Each Other's Desire Language
What lights YOU up is completely different from what lights your partner up. Most couples never discover this.
Through creative play and low-stakes experimentation, I teach both partners what the other actually responds to—
not through pressure or performance, but through genuine curiosity.
The result: a menu of intimate options that genuinely work for both of you, and real confidence that you understand each other— deeply.
STEP 4
Make Intimacy Easy— Not Loaded
This is where everything comes together and stays together.
You’ll build the skills to navigate the natural ups and downs without shame or distance, talk about desire and boundaries without walking on eggshells, and handle disappointment with empathy instead of resentment.
The result: intimacy that feels fun and nourishing—not heavy or obligatory. You’ll relax into better sex than you imagined was possible. Both partners feeling genuinely seen, heard, wanted, and valued for exactly who they are.
These four steps work together as a complete process, each building on the last— moving you from stuck and disconnected to genuinely wanting each other again.
How The Desire Gap Bridge™ Program Actually Works
This isn't therapy. And that's the point.
FOR COUPLES
Most couples therapy follows the same pattern: you sit in a room together, talk about the problem, leave with no new tools, and repeat the same patterns at home. Many people leave feeling unheard— or worse, blamed.
That’s not what happens here.
Before you work together, each partner works individually with me first. Here’s why that matters:
When you’re in the room with your partner, you’re managing their reactions, protecting them from your full truth, and navigating the same tense dynamic that brought you here. Real honesty— the kind that actually creates change— needs safety first.
Individual work interrupts the cycles you’re in. It releases the pressure and tension of the couples dynamic. And it ensures that when you do come together, both of you arrive feeling genuinely heard, seen, and supported— with new skills and real self-knowledge that enables new results.
Months 1–3: Individual Foundation
Both partners work with me individually. 3 sessions per month, plus embodied practices and a supported integration week. Each of you gets your own space to do the nervous system work, release shame, understand your unique patterns, and build genuine confidence—without performing for or protecting your partner.
Months 4–6: Together Work
You bring what you’ve each discovered into couples sessions. Practice new approaches together. Navigate your differences with real tools and support. Build the intimacy that felt impossible before.
Every couple moves at their own pace. The transition from individual to couples work is flexible—we adjust based on what you both need.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
You don’t need your partner in the room to start changing your relationship.
Individual coaching follows its own arc—designed specifically for where you are right now.
We start with you: understanding your unique patterns, helping you feel genuinely good in your own body, building confidence and security, and releasing the anxiety and resentment that’s built up. This isn’t just self-work. It’s relationship work.
Then we get specific. We look at what you’ve already tried with your partner, pinpoint exactly what to do differently, and—crucially—we actually practice it. So you don’t leave with just insights. You leave with skills.
What happens next often surprises people: when one partner shows up differently, the dynamic shifts. Partners who seemed checked out or unwilling frequently respond in ways that weren’t possible before. You’ll find out what your partner is capable of when you meet them differently— and that’s valuable information either way.
3 sessions per month, plus embodied practices and a supported integration week. Like all work in this program, the pace and focus are tailored to your specific situation.
INVESTMENT
The Desire Gap Bridge™ Program is a 6-month personalized coaching engagement. There are no group sessions, no generic modules, and no one-size-fits-all approach. Every element is tailored to your specific situation, patterns, and goals.
INDIVIDUAL COACHING
$1,099/month for 6 months or $5,994 pay-in-full (includes $600 courtesy discount)
What’s included:
- 3 individual sessions per month
- Supported integration week with embodied practices every month
- Digital workbooks completed in your personal Drive folder
- Voice message support between sessions (replies within 24 hours weekdays)
COUPLES COACHING
$1,599/month for 6 months or $8,994 pay-in-full (includes $600 courtesy discount)
What’s included:
- 3 individual sessions per month for BOTH partners (months 1-3)
- 3 couples sessions per month (months 4-6)
- Supported integration week with embodied practices each month
- Digital workbooks completed in your personal Drive folder
- Voice message support between sessions (replies within 24 hours weekdays)
MY GUARANTEE TO YOU
I’m invested in your outcome—not just your enrollment. That’s why this program comes with two guarantees:
If you do the work and don’t see results: Complete all sessions, workbooks, and exercises as assigned. If you don’t experience meaningful progress toward the goals we set together in your first session, I will refund your investment. No hoops. No argument.
If you reach your goals early: You’ll receive a full refund of your remaining sessions. I’m not here to keep billing you once you’ve gotten what you came for.
Both guarantees exist because I know what’s possible when people show up fully—and I want you to know it too.
LAUNCH BONUS
Enroll by March 4 and receive my personally curated set of 4 lesser-known books for desire discrepancy situations.
Not the ones everyone recommends. The ones that actually move the needle—and that I personally return to again and again with clients.
This bonus is available to everyone who enrolls during the launch window. After March 4, the program continues. The books don’t.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
“Our marriage is better because we found Laura and we are forever thankful.”
After just 3 months, my sex drive was increasing and communication between my husband and I was much better regarding sex. Laura was extremely warm and caring with how I was feeling and made me feel valid. Each session was a deep dive into how I can start to love myself and my body. My husband also started seeing Laura for himself and that has made things even better.
— Randi
“This was honestly the best money we’ve ever spent and we are thrilled. Laura literally changed our lives.”
Our marriage is so much better, and frankly, we both are so much less stressed and more joyful. I can’t thank her enough.
— Max and Jess
“Working with Laura was sincerely one of the most powerful, transformative experiences of my life.”
I came with a goal that felt so daunting and so vulnerable. After years of truly believing it was impossible to attain, with Laura’s safe, loving and straight-forward encouragement and techniques, I was suddenly experiencing all I had ever wanted and MORE. And SO QUICKLY.
— Kama Hagar
“The concern I had before we started was that I thought it sounded too good to be true.”
That went away very, very quickly. These sessions don’t feel like work. The transformation has been huge. I look back now and see how I would have dealt with some of the situations I am dealing with now and I just go “Oh, my God, thank goodness I did this.” Everything feels so much more manageable.
— Treasa P.
“I recommend Laura to anybody who’s distanced from being intimate with other people, particularly LGBTQ+ people because I think we all need more safe space.”
— Jo Felden
IS THIS PROGRAM RIGHT FOR YOU?
This program is for you if:
You’re experiencing desire discrepancy in your relationship—whether you’re the higher-desire or lower-desire partner—and you’re done accepting disconnection as normal.
You’ve tried therapy, books, or other approaches and still feel stuck. You’re ready for personalized, body-based work that goes deeper than talking about the problem.
You’re an individual ready to start now, even if your partner isn’t. Or you’re a couple where both partners are genuinely willing to engage.
You have a history of sexual trauma or childhood attachment trauma. This work is trauma-literate and body-based—designed to move at your pace, within your boundaries, in a way that feels safe. Having trauma in your history doesn’t disqualify you. For many people, it’s exactly why this approach works when others haven’t.
You’re in any kind of relationship—monogamous, non-monogamous, or polyamorous. Any sexual orientation or gender identity. Any background. This work is for you.
You can commit dedicated time each week to sessions and practices. Not because it’s hard—clients consistently say it’s easier and more enjoyable than they expected—but because showing up fully is what makes the transformation possible.
This program is not the right fit if:
You’re experiencing active major depression, debilitating anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, or a personality disorder such as Narcissistic or Borderline PD. These require specialist support that falls outside the scope of coaching.
You’re in a relationship with active abuse, addiction, or infidelity that hasn’t been addressed. These need to be stabilized first.
You want to start as a couple but one partner is willing to engage and the other is not. Individual coaching is available and often very effective in this situation—but joint sessions require genuine willingness from everyone involved.
You’re looking for a quick fix. This is a 6-month commitment to real, lasting change—not a shortcut.
Not sure if you’re the right fit? That’s exactly what the free consultation is for. If I’m not the right person for your situation, I’ll tell you—and I’ll do my best to point you toward someone who is.
ABOUT LAURA JURGENS, PhD
I specialize in desire gaps. Not because other relationship issues don’t matter—but because desire gaps sit at the intersection of everything that does: your nervous system, your attachment history, your body, your communication patterns, and your deepest sense of self. Solving them requires someone who lives at that intersection.
And almost nobody does. Most therapists aren’t trained in desire issues. Most relationship coaches don’t go deep enough into the body, the neuroscience of arousal, or the relational dynamics that actually drive desire discrepancy. That gap in expertise is exactly why so many people try therapy, read the books, and still end up stuck.
This isn’t a niche I stumbled into. I came to this work because I’ve been on both sides of a desire gap myself. I know what it feels like to be the higher-desire partner facing rejection, and the lower-desire partner feeling pressured and broken. I also know from personal experience that it’s never too late—and you’re never broken.
Once I found the right tools, I was amazed at how quickly I was able to radically change my relationships and rediscover playful sex. Sharing those tools is the most fulfilling thing I do.
MY TRAINING
I hold a PhD in Biological Sciences from UC Davis and spent years as a research professor before transitioning to coaching. That background means I work from evidence, not just intuition. I’m a Certified Sexologist, Master Certified Intimacy and Relationship Coach, and Desire and Arousal Specialist. I am certified through the Somatica® Institute—accredited by The American Board of Sexologists International. I’m also trained in NeuroAffective Touch®, which releases attachment and developmental trauma held in the body, and certified through The Life Coach School in cognitive-based coaching.
WHAT THAT MEANS FOR YOU
You’re not working with a generalist who added intimacy coaching to their menu. You’re working with someone whose entire practice, training, and expertise is focused on exactly what you’re dealing with.
I developed The Desire Gap Bridge™ Method specifically for this work. I host The Desire Gap Podcast—a top 5% show globally, dedicated to desire gaps and real solutions for couples. My work has been published in multiple outlets and I bring the same rigor to client work that I brought to academic research.
My approach is inclusive, trauma-informed, sex-positive, and culturally sensitive by explicit training. I work with individuals and couples of all backgrounds, orientations, and relationship structures. Because desire lives in your body—not just your mind.
READY TO SOLVE YOUR DESIRE GAP?
10 spots. Open through March 4th.
You’ve read this far because something here resonated. That’s not nothing.
The free consultation isn’t a sales call. It’s a real conversation about your specific situation—where you are, what you’ve tried, and whether this program is the right fit. If it’s not, I’ll tell you.
If it is, this is how you stop accepting disconnection as normal.
Enroll by March 4th and receive 4 personally curated lesser-known books for desire discrepancy situations—not the ones everyone recommends, the ones that actually move the needle.