98: When holiday stress kills desire (your sex life doesn’t need to be a Hallmark movie)

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If you're not tearing each other's matching pajamas off for holiday romance, you're not broken – you're normal. The holidays come with dreamy visions of mistletoe magic, but the reality is stress, family drama, overbooked schedules, and exhaustion.

In this episode, we tackle:

  • Why holiday pressure kills intimacy
  • The common patterns that widen desire gaps (and how to avoid them)
  • Low-pressure ways to stay connected when libido is low or mismatched
  • How to communicate without pressure if you're the higher-desire partner
  • How to free yourself from holiday expectations if you're the lower-desire partner
  • How to redefine holiday intimacy for your actual relationship

Real love doesn't care about picture-perfect presents. It cares about being seen, heard, and connected, even when life is messy.

Perfect for those navigating desire and relationship challenges during the most stressful season of the year. Zero shame. Real help.

Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and “Shoulds” Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide

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Meet Laura Jurgens, PhD
My approach is research-backed, body-based (somatic), and explicitly inclusive of all genders, orientations, and relationship structures. I developed The Pleasure Path Method™ from years of study and practice — and it works whether you’re starting alone or with a partner.