You've solved harder problems than this. So why is this one still stuck?
This episode is for the high achievers who have done real work on themselves — the therapy, the books, the hard conversations — and still can't get traction when it comes to desire, intimacy, and their closest relationships. It's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because you've been using the wrong tools for the wrong system.
In this episode:
- Why capable, self-sufficient people are often the last to get help with intimacy — and why that costs them the most
- The cultural lie that you're supposed to just know how to do sex and relationships (and why it makes zero sense)
- Top-down vs. body-up: why cognitive tools and talk therapy can't reach what's actually stuck
- Why “trying harder” and “knowing more” can fool you into thinking they'll eventually work for everything
- What somatic, body-based work actually reaches — and what changes when you find the right tool for the real problem
Topics: high achievers, intimacy, somatic sex coaching, low libido, desire, nervous system, body shame, sex therapy, intimacy coach, relationship help
Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and “Shoulds” Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide
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Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/
Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/
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Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel
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