The Desire Gap Blog
You're Not Broken. Your Relationship Isn't Doomed. You Just Need Better Tools.
If you’re here because you and your partner want different amounts of sex, welcome. Desire discrepancy is one of the most common challenges in long-term relationships—and one of the hardest to solve without experienced help. These articles will help you understand what’s really happening and what to do about it.
I’m Dr. Laura Jurgens, and I specialize in helping couples navigate the frustration of mismatched libido. I am here to support both partners equally, without blame or shame. So you can get free of the hurt and resentment, and fully seen and loved in your relationship.
Whether you’re the higher-desire partner feeling rejected or the lower-desire partner feeling pressured, you’ll find support here.
Start exploring the articles below.
How to Stop Taking Sexual Rejection Personally
If you're the higher-desire partner, this one's for you. When your partner says no to sex and you immediately spiral into "they don't love me," "I'm undesirab ...
Why Obligation Sex Is Harming Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)
Let me be direct about this: If you're having obligation sex, you are harming yourself and your relationship. I know that sounds harsh. And I say it with comp ...
How to Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner and Start Fixing the Dynamic
This is the foundational mistake that underlies almost everything else when it comes to desire discrepancies. When there's a desire gap in your re ...
Top 10 Mistakes People Make with a Desire Discrepancy . . . (and What to Do Instead)
After years of working with couples on mismatched desire—and recording 100 episodes of my podcast on this exact topic—I've noticed something: the same patterns ...