My Mission

There’s so much shame around who we are—especially when it comes to our sexual selves. Add modern disconnection, and even people who love each other often feel lonely and misunderstood. This disconnect shows up powerfully in desire gaps: when partners want intimacy at different frequencies.

My mission is to help you defeat shame, reconnect with your body and authentic desires, and communicate effectively with your partner—so you both feel fully known, fully loved, and on the same team.

I want you to live your absolute best life. I’m thrilled to help you discover your unique erotic nature and move from conflict to genuine connection. It’s what I love to do.

About Me

Hi, I’m Laura. I’m a Desire & Arousal Specialist who helps couples close the desire gap.

If you and your partner want sex at different frequencies, you’re in the right place. I work with both the higher-desire and lower-desire partner equally—no blame, no shame, just practical tools that actually work.

I help people transform their relationships with their bodies, their pleasure, their emotions, and their partners through The Desire Gap Bridge™, my proven 4-step method for navigating mismatched desire. I know first-hand that it’s never too late and you’re never broken.

My approach is inclusive, research-based, de-shaming, sex-positive, and playful. Coaching with me is about getting you new results in your intimate life that create a future full of joy and connection. I work with all kinds of adults who have had a wide variety of life experiences, and I deeply respect every single one.

The Desire Gap Bridge™ Method

Most couples experience desire discrepancies, but most therapists don’t have specialized training in desire issues. That’s where I come in.

My 4-step process helps couples move from blame to breakthrough:

1. From Blame to Curiosity – Understand what’s really creating the libido mismatch for both of you
2. Embody Your Desire – Individual somatic work to reconnect with your body’s signals and authentic desires
3. Explore Playfully Together – Low-pressure experiments to discover what creates genuine connection for you as a couple
4. Communicate With Clarity – Build skills to talk about sex, desire, and boundaries that last beyond our work together

This isn’t about “fixing” the lower-desire partner or convincing the higher-desire partner to want less. It’s about understanding your unique sexual selves and giving each other what you actually want.

Training & Approach

I use evidence-based, scientifically grounded somatic (body-based) and cognitive (mind-based) tools to get you results as quickly as possible. I also teach clients to self-coach so you don’t need to see me forever.

All sessions are clothes-on and do not involve kissing or genital touch. In-person sessions may involve mutually consensual touch in service of your goals (for example, learning to say what you want or don’t want, or learning different ways to initiate touch).

I am a Certified Sexologist and Sex and Relationship Coach certified via the Somatica® Institute (accredited by The American Board of Sexologists International and approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists). I’m trained in NeuroAffective Touch®, which releases attachment and developmental trauma held as deep bracing in the body. I’m also certified through The Life Coach School in cognitive-based coaching. My Ph.D. is in the biological sciences from UC Davis (2015), and I use my science background to ground my practice in the latest research on desire and arousal.

My Story

It’s been a winding path. Yours might have been too.

I’m now a thriving desire gap coach, but I’m also a self-liberated former academic research professor. I was a community organizer and farm worker, among other things, and worked three jobs putting myself through college. I’ve been a lot of other things too, including a homeless independent kid and a survivor of child abuse and sexual assault.

You have your own traumas. We all do—even just from living in a society that wants us to fit into certain molds and shames us for being unique, sexual beings. It is absolutely possible to not just survive trauma, but to thrive after trauma. The kind of active, skill-based coaching I do now is what helped me move past shame and get out of my head so I could feel embodied again.

For me, I had a hard time asking for what I wanted, let alone knowing what that was. I was disconnected from my emotions and my body. I was terrified of conflict or being “needy.” But I learned to reconnect with myself step by step, and then to connect authentically with others. I came home to the power of my body, my pleasure, and my capacity for true joy in intimacy. So can you.

Once I found the right tools, I was amazed at how quickly I was able to radically change my relationships and rediscover playful sex. Sharing these tools to help people love themselves and others better is the most fulfilling thing I do. I truly love what I do and I absolutely adore working with clients.