Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
What does it cost to work with you?
Full details for The Desire Gap Bridge™ Program (6 months) and the Foundations Program (3 months) are here.
Single sessions for specific challenges are sometimes available, depending on my client load, at $295 each.
Multi-session packages are the best value. I offer multi-session packages for NeuroAffective Touch (attachment trauma release) and other intimacy/relationship issues in addition to the signature Desire Gap Bridge Program. Please book a consultation to discuss your specific needs.
Why 3 or 6 months?
Closing a desire gap takes time—not because the work is slow, but because real transformation requires building new neural pathways and relationship patterns.
Six months gives you:
- Time to understand what’s driving the desire discrepancy for both of you
- Individual somatic work to reconnect with your body and authentic desires
- Low-pressure experiments to discover what actually creates connection
- Communication skills that become second nature
The 3-month Foundations Program is designed to give you the first two steps of the The Desire Gap Bridge™ program. That is enough to shift out of blame and shame into a new confidence that the problem is solve-able. If you’re afraid to try something new, because what you tried before hasn’t worked, the Foundations Program is your easy entry into experiencing what does work.
It is important to understand there is no quick fix to a desire gap, and most intimacy challenges take at least a few months of active work to change for good. That is good. You want sustainable change that lasts beyond our work together.
Is it worth the investment?
Research shows relationship quality is the biggest predictor of happiness in life. Disconnection and intimacy issues are the leading causes of breakups and divorces.
Think about what you’ve already invested trying to fix this on your own—time, energy, books, articles, conversations that go nowhere. What has staying stuck cost you so far?
Besides, there is no guarantee when you buy a book or a bunch of therapy sessions. I know my clients get real transformation, so I have a double-guarantee. Do all the practices, sessions, and reflections as assigned, and if you don’t see a change, I give you your money back. And if you get where you want to be early? I also refund your session balance.
Here’s what a former client says:
“I have come so far (no pun intended lol) since working with Laura. I am much braver and my new relationship is amazing with her help. When we reached out after our first bump in the road, she helped us together (she works with me solo and us together) to work on a repair process that left us closer. Laura helps tap into body memories and feelings that typically aren’t reached in common therapy/coaching practices. Hire her now! She is also great at celebrating wins with you!” —Lisa Madsen, LCSW
Your transformation can never be taken away from you and doesn’t expire. Most people underestimate how much not changing is costing them.
What would it be worth to feel free of the pain and struggle? What is living up to your full potential for pleasure and connection worth to you?
Ready to see if this is right for you?
How long does it take to get results?
Most clients work with me for 6 months through The Desire Gap Bridge Program. This timeline isn’t arbitrary— it’s what actually works for sustainable transformation in your desire dynamic.
You’ll start seeing shifts within the first few weeks as you understand what’s really happening and stop the blame cycle. Deeper changes—feeling genuinely comfortable in your body, communicating confidently about sex, experiencing playful intimacy—build over months, not days.
I’m focused on getting you real, lasting results. Not giving you “general information” about desire gaps. We are actually shifting your nervous system patterns, healing attachment wounds, and patterning new ways of connecting with your own sexuality and your partner.
How do I know if I need a therapist or a coach?
Coaching is results-oriented and focused on the present and future. It’s about getting substantial, specific changes in your life in months, not years.
Talk therapy is generally past-focused—understanding where behaviors come from rather than creating concrete results. It’s often a slow process.
Many clients (including me) have both a coach and therapist. They do different things and work well together.
Choose a therapist if you want to: Understand your past, explore childhood wounds, process where emotions come from
Choose a coach if you want to: Get what you want in life, practice real intimacy skills, create change now
The Desire Gap Bridge Program is practice-oriented. We actually practice real relational and intimacy skills together—something you won’t get in talk therapy. Most therapists aren’t trained in desire discrepancies or intimacy issues and definitely won’t do relational practice with you.
What a former client (who is a therapist herself) says:
“Being a therapist myself and having worked in and received care from many different modalities, I was grateful for Laura’s straight-forward, practical style. We stayed on topic and addressed our challenges while developing greater compassion for one another’s experiences. Laura helped normalize and validate what we were going through while making concrete recommendations and even having us practice some (PG) things in her office so we could figure out where the snags or missing communication were. We laughed, we cried; we achieved exactly what we came for—more intimacy, better communication, and more ease and playfulness around sensuality. I recommend Laura’s services!” —EM & KM
What do we do in session?
This is embodied work. We work in a “relationship lab” where you establish and practice new ways of being and feeling within our real relationship together.
Unlike talk therapy, I don’t remain distant or act like I’m not a vulnerable human just like you. Everything happens within your boundaries and mine. We go at your pace, and I always check in about what feels okay to practice.
This is how you learn to confidently navigate conversations around desires and boundaries.
Sessions and practices will help you get into your body and out of your head (and make sure what’s in there is actually useful for you). They will uncover your specific nervous system needs, attachment needs, and challenges. We will also start re-patterning your approach to your own sexuality and your partner’s so you can feel safe, relaxed, free, worthy, loved, and playful.
In-person sessions also include the option of consent-based, clothes-on, non-genital touch when it serves your goals. Examples include practicing different types of touch, learning to ask for what you like, or learning how to touch a partner.
You’ll get real, honest feedback and complete acceptance. Plus, we have fun! The motto of the Somatica Method® I trained in is “transformation through pleasure.“
Do you support other relationship issues or only desire gaps?
Yes, I support other issues for sure. While I specialize in desire discrepancies and libido mismatch, I have broad experience supporting individuals and couples in solving almost all intimacy and connection issues.
Curious whether I’d be a good fit for your needs? Schedule a free consultation and we’ll talk it over. If I’m not the right fit, I’ll tell you and try to give you a referral.
How long are your sessions?
Online sessions: 45-50 minutes via secure Zoom
In-person sessions: 60 minutes in Asheville, NC (gives us time to settle in together)
Both formats get great results.
NeuroAffective Touch® sessions are 1-2 hours and priced at an hourly rate outside of standard packages. If you’re interested in this incredibly effective approach to releasing attachment and relational trauma, book a consultation to discuss it.
Do you offer in-person intensives?
Yes, based on availability. Intensives are an excellent way to get serious transformation quickly.
I offer 1-2 day intensives (3-5 hour sessions) in Asheville, North Carolina, when my client load allows. Email me at laura@laurajurgens.com to inquire about scheduling, and we’ll set up a call to discuss your goals.
How often should I see you?
My program is structured to have weekly sessions in the first 3 weeks of each month, with the last week of the month for focused practice and integration. This enables you to build momentum and get faster results.
I offer flexibility for travel and vacations. We reschedule when conflicts arise.
Will it work for me?
You’re unique, but you’re also human. This coaching approach works for all humans with few exceptions (serious mental illness or personality disorders that interfere with relational learning).
As long as you commit to show up and practice with your whole heart, and you’re willing to believe you can make change, these methods will work for you.
Step one is believing in your own potential for change. That’s the hardest part—and no one can do it for you. I’ll help you build that belief along the way.
Is there anyone you don’t work with?
I don’t work with people who have serious mental or emotional illnesses requiring specialist support (active major depression, debilitating anxiety, bipolar, schizophrenia, or personality disorders like Narcissistic or Borderline PD).
I work with individuals when only one person is ready. That is often quite effective, and often their partner comes on board later.
However, I decline to work with couples when two people come to session but only one person is willing to engage. Everyone participating needs to be interested and willing for us to make any progress.
Is it hard work?
It’s fun work. It’s rewarding. Sometimes that means it’s challenging, but in a growth-oriented way.
My clients are always surprised at how much fun we have and how much they look forward to our sessions. I’ll guide you and we’ll go gently. When tough emotions come up, I’ll support you in processing them. You won’t be alone.
You don’t need to do anything but show up with an open mind and a willingness to try. I’ll never tell you what to do, but I’ll always be honest about the likely consequences of your choices so YOU can choose wisely.
Have other questions?
Email me at laura@laurajurgens.com
Ready to talk about whether I can help you?