How long are your sessions?

Regular sessions are either 60-minutes in person (which gives us a bit more time to settle in to the space together) or 45-minutes online (by Zoom). In-person sessions are in Asheville, North Carolina, U.S.A. Both in-person and zoom sessions get great results. 

Do you offer in-person intensives?

Yes. This is an excellent way to get serious transformation, quickly. I do in-person intensives in beautiful Asheville, North Carolina. Typically these are 1 to 2 days of 3 to 5-hour sessions. Email me to inquire about scheduling and we can set up a call to talk about your goals and whether (and when) an intensive might be right for you. 

What do we do?

This is embodied work. We will interact in a “relationship lab” where we establish and practice skills within our real relationship. Unlike talk therapy, I do not have to remain distant. Everything we do will be within your boundaries and mine, and at your pace, with your full consent. We will practice discussing how to navigate conversations of consent and boundaries too.

In-person clients also have the option of working with consent-based, clothes-on, non-genital touch. I will offer or invite touch when it serves your goals and needs. Examples include holding, practicing light or firm touches to see what your body likes, to learn how to ask for what you like, or to learn how to touch a partner. If you are working on learning breast or genital touch, we will use a toy model to show you how to touch and let you practice.

You will always get real, honest feedback and complete acceptance from me as part of this process. Plus, we have fun! The motto of the Somatica Method® is “transformation through pleasure.“

How do I know if I need a therapist or a coach?

Coaching and therapy are very compatible. They just do different things. Coaching is results-oriented. It aims to get you substantial change in weeks to months. Talk therapy is more past-focused and focused on acceptance rather than concrete results or transformation. It also often takes many years for any changes to occur, if they do.

If you have serious and un-addressed trauma in your past, I recommend specific therapy modalities to process your trauma before or while you are getting coached, including EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, or IFS (Internal Family Systems). Look for therapists who do these things, not just talk, if you have trauma.

Many clients (and I myself) have both a coach and therapist. If you want to focus on understanding your past — the reasons behind your emotions and reactions, and your childhood wounds, you should absolutely find and hire a good therapist (be picky!).

If you want to focus on the present and the future — getting what you want in life — then a good coach is often a better fit than a therapist (again, be picky!). The type of coaching I do is practice-oriented. We actually practice real relational and intimacy skills, which you will not get in talk therapy. Most therapists are frankly not trained well (or at all) around intimacy issues and definitely will not do relational practice with clients. This type of practice will give you the confidence you need to take these skills into your relationships. 

Is there anyone you don’t work with?

I do not work with people who have serious mental or emotional illnesses, such as active major depression, debilitating anxiety, bipolar, schizophrenia, or a personality disorder (like Narcissistic or Borderline PD). This is because these conditions require specialist support and I am not that person. 

I also do not work with couples where only one person wants to be doing the work. Both parties need to be interested in getting coached and fully willing to participate.  

How long does it take to get results?

My clients typically work with me for relatively short periods (6 to 18 months), depending on their goals and starting points. We start with 12 weeks typically and then renew until they are ready to graduate. I am focused on getting you what you came for as soon as possible. I often have a waiting list, and a lot of my clients come from my very happy former-client referrals (check out what they have to say HERE!). 

What does it cost to work with you and how do I pay?

Single sessions are $250. I offer substantial package discounts, and most clients take advantage of these. 12 sessions is $2400. Packages are eligible for full refunds of remaining session balances if you need to leave for any reason. 

Clients pay online before the session or package start date, although I do take payment in-person for in-person work before the start of the session or intensive. 

Is it worth the investment? 

Ultimately, you decide what your own goals are worth to you. What is living the whole rest of your life with access to more pleasure and connection than you ever thought possible worth to you? 

Research shows relationship quality is the biggest predictor of happiness in life. We also know that disconnection and intimacy issues are by far the leading causes of divorce. So of course I think it’s worth it, and my former clients do too. 

See what they have to say here. 

Some people have a hard time investing in their own joy.

I invite you to consider investing in yourself, and prioritizing your own pleasure and enjoyment of your precious life and body. To me, this is much more worthwhile than all the stuff (commodities like cars, booze, handbags, clothes, etc.) that we buy. You and your pleasure are worth prioritizing. Your transformation can never be taken away from you and doesn’t expire. 

Will it work for me?

You are unique, but you’re also human. The coaching approach I use works for all humans, with few exceptions (serious mental illness or personality disorders that get in the way of relational learning). As long as you commit to show up and do the practice with your whole heart, and you are willing to believe you can actually make change, these methods will work for you. Step one is believing in your own potential for change. That’s the hardest part– and no one can do it for you. 

How often should I see you?

We will set up weekly sessions because that works best. This work is experiential and builds on momentum. You will get faster results if your mind-body doesn’t have time to go back to old, default habits (like a sport, you need to internalize the practice in your body). But I do offer flexibility and we can always reschedule when conflicts arise.

Alternatively, or in addition, you can book an intensive. Those are 1 to 2 days of 3 to 5-hour sessions and are wonderful for getting resolution on specific issues quickly. 

Is it hard work? 

It’s fun work. My clients are always surprised at how much fun we have and how much they look forward to our sessions. I will guide you and we will go gently. Sometimes tough emotions will come up and I will support you in processing them. That can be a little challenging, but in a way that brings relief and competence. Most sessions are really fun for both of us! We get to play together in service of your growth and future. You don’t need to do anything but show up with an open mind and a willingness to try. I am not a “tough” coach because that doesn’t work. I will never tell you what to do, but I will be honest about the consequences of your choices so YOU can choose wisely. 

If you have other questions, please feel free to send me an email (see contact info below)

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